Showing posts with label parties. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parties. Show all posts

Monday, December 11, 2017

Introvert Surprise Party

            As a reclusive introvert, I’ve never seen the appeal of surprise parties. Colleen, on the other hand, has always wanted one – although, like me, she isn’t really much of a party person. So, I came up with a clever solution. It does require some lucky circumstances for it to play out properly, but here it is: My instructions on how to throw an introverted surprise party.

1.      1. Do not plan a party. Parties are terribly dull things.

2.      2. Wait for the party’s recipient to make social plans with the type of friends they would want invited to a party. It can be just a simple get-together, or perhaps plans for some form of activity (such as playing Dungeons & Dragons).

3.      3. Find a good time, such as the night before the get-together, to sneakily by a cake. Hide it somewhere where it won’t be found before the not-a-party. Leaving it in a car is a good option, if possible – especially if you can conveniently leave something else in the car that will give you a good excuse to go out and get the cake.

4.      4. On the day of the party, wait for the appropriate time to reveal that this is, in fact, a party. To do this, you will require the cake. It may be beneficial to move the cake to an indoors hiding place, as candles don’t necessarily fare that well outside.

5.      5. Sneak to the cake’s hiding place, insert and light candles, then quietly approach the gathering of people from a direction that the attendees will spot you before the party’s recipient does.

6.      6. Wait patiently for the guests to notice you’re holding a flaming cake in plain view.

7.      7. Join in the singing when the guests inevitably start.

8.      8. Surprise!

9.      9. Continue on with the get-together plans as if nothing were different – except now there’s cake. After all, why spoil perfectly good plans by changing them?


And, thus, you have created a perfect, introverted surprise party so thoroughly that no one except you even knew it was a party. Pretty surprising, right?





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Monday, August 15, 2016

Strange Gatherings

            One of the most fascinating things to me is how quickly complete strangers can bond over common interests. This could partially be because I, as an extremely introverted person, tend to prefer staying home and avoiding as much social interaction as possible. The idea is somewhat alien to me that people actually seek out social situations. That said, I do occasionally emerge from under my rock to mingle with the living.

            Last Thursday was one such occasion. The vast excitement over Pokemon Go had bred whole new social circles. There are now Facebook groups focused on helping each of the three in-game teams co-ordinate their catching and gym battling efforts within their city, as well as sharing their latest victories.

            On my team’s local group (team Mystic), the idea came up to throw a PokeParty at one of the local parks – just to get together, meet each other, have a barbeque and maybe battle the nearby gym. Within a few weeks, the pavilion was rented and the event was organized. They even decided to open the even to the rival teams.

            So, Colleen and I thought, why not? We went down to the park with my sister-in-law to see what it would be like, catch some pokemon, and maybe meet some people if it couldn’t be avoided.

            Now, this was an all-day event, which was nice for making it available for people with many different schedules. The flip side was that the result was that, rather than a whole lot of people, there was a small amount of people there with the members changing throughout the day. As an introvert, I greatly approved of this.

            For most of the two hours we were there, there were seven of us there. We flipped between hanging out as a group while eating hamburgers and wandering between the nearby pokestop and gym. All of us got along astoundingly well – not surprising, since we were all team Mystic.

            Then the gym was claimed by some team Valor players. Through struggling back and forth for control of the gym and watching the nearby people, we were able to identify the three rivals who were, like us, wandering between the pokestop and gym. So, after we claimed the gym a filled it full of magikarp (Pokemon players will understand how hilarious this is), one of the party’s organizers approached the Valor players and invited them to join us for some hamburgers.

            So, the party grew – and, despite the playful trash talk (now mostly aimed at the not-present team Instinct players), we all got along wonderfully. While I wasn’t there for the rest of the event, I think it can be considered quite a success.

            It’s even more interesting, though, when you look at our current society. We’re told from childhood to beware of strangers. We avoid all contact with people we don’t know. It’s like we have this fear that anyone we don’t know is a horrible person, or someone we wouldn’t get along with.

            Yet, all it took was a single point of interest to bring together a group of people who would never have spoken to each other. Not only that, but that point of interest (and food) was enough to ignore that we were on rival teams and competing for control of a gym. There was reason (at least for extremely competitive people) to be antagonistic, but we were all friendly.


            It seems to me that all it takes for people to get along is one thing in common. I wonder how much better a place the world would be if people, when looking at others, looked at the similarities rather than the differences (and maybe shared some food).




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Monday, September 28, 2015

Whoops, Politics Happened

            I generally try to keep politics out of my blog posts. Sometimes I wonder why and quickly remind myself it’s because that’s one of those topics we’re not supposed to talk about. Politics and religion. It’s too easy to upset people. Besides, that's not what I (or my blog) is about.

            Unfortunately, right now, Canadian politics are frustrating me so much that I can’t get them off my mind. I’ve just spent the last half hour trying to find something else to talk about, but my mind kept circling back to this.

            Canadian democracy. How it’s supposed to work vs how it actually works.

            Let’s pretend for a moment that Canada is much smaller than it is. Let’s say there are ten cities governed by one body. The government is supposed to be representative of what the people want, so each city sends one person in to represent them. This person is elected from a selection of candidates, each of which presents their ideas on how the country should be run. People vote for the person who they feel best represents their ideals whoever wins becomes part of the government.

            We now have a government made up of ten people. Those ten elect one of their members to be their chairperson and spokesperson. That person doesn’t have much more power than the rest; they’re just in charge of keeping the meetings running smoothly. The ten of them discuss issues, vote and deliver their decisions.

            That’s how it’s supposed to work, only on a much larger scale. That’s where it starts to fall apart. The first problem is that there are too many cities, so the country is divided into districts. Each representative now represents far more people, too many for them to possibly get to know everyone personally.

            The second problem is that, even separated into districts, there are still 338 representatives. That’s a whole lot of people who have to agree upon one spokesperson, the Prime Minister, from amongst themselves, or to come to any decision for that matter.

            The solution? The candidates arrange themselves into parties, networking themselves with people with similar ideals and working together to earn a victory. They pre-pick who will be the Prime Minister if their party if their party wins more seats than the others.

            The idea is solid and it worked to a certain extent, except for the part where three major parties rose to the top. With these three parties playing tug-of-war over the majority of votes, a problem began to arise. Each party obtained loyal supporters, who will vote for them no matter what. Then, in the middle, there are the swing votes – the people who like to believe they are more politically informed and will vote based on the issues.

            But, rather than voting for the individual they want to represent themselves, they vote for the party and the Prime Minister they think will do the best job. In fact, most Canadians don’t even realise they’re supposed to be voting for their local representative rather than the Prime Minister – or that those representatives, if they win, aren’t supposed to follow the Prime Minister blindly.

            While the representatives are supposed to vote based on what they believe is best for the country and for the people they represent, as part of a party they are expected to follow the pack. If their party wants an issue voted on one way, that’s how they’re expected to vote. With all the pressure, how many will actually vote against their party if they believe their party is wrong?

            So, what we end up with is a room full of people elected by the swing votes. Those people mostly vote in pre-determined ways. Now, if we have a minority government (going back to the ten representative example) with one party with four representatives and the other two with three, we see a government that functions mostly as it should. There is an even distribution of views and so changes are only made if two of the parties agree. Not as much happens, but more Canadians are happy.

            On the other hand, with a majority government (say, five, three and two representatives) the party in power can do pretty much whatever it wants. The only thing to stand in their way are the few representatives willing to go against the flow.

            Of course, this is where things start to get really messed up. All it takes to get voted in is to have the most votes in your district. This means if 35% of the people vote for you, and the majority of the votes are split between your opponents, you still get in.

            And so starts the dirty politics. The focus shifts from sharing your great ideas for the country to making your opponents look bad. It won’t work for all their supporters, but you just have to sway them enough to keep the votes split between them. As long as you don’t look as bad as they do, you can win with 34% of the voters behind you – less, if your district has smaller parties and independent candidates to absorb more of your opponents’ votes.

            Here, we come to Canada’s greatest problem. We have one right-wing party, two major left-wing parties and a further two less substantial left-wing parties. The vast majority of Canadians voted for left-wing parties, yet we ended up with a right-wing majority government. How? Because with four left-wing parties to choose from, the single right-wing party just had to keep their loyal supporters, win a handful of the swing vote (using manipulative fear tactics to scare them away from the opposition), and make the other parties split the vote.

            The worst part is that the left-wing parities perpetuate the problem. In their struggle to rise to the top, they further split the vote. The majority of Canadians are sick of our right-wing government and our Prime Minister who thinks he should be allowed to do whatever he wants. Our left-wing parties know this, so they are fighting harder than ever to win, knowing that they have the support of the country.

            Yet, they are further splitting the vote. They are even helping the right-wing party by attacking their left-wing fellows on petty details when they should really be teaming up. All it would take for them is for them to work together a little – to have some candidates drop out of key swing districts so the vote won’t be split. Then we’d end up with a government we’re at least reasonably happy with.

            Since both major left-wing parties want to alter the electoral system so that more votes actually count in the end result of elections, they would only have to do this once. Then they could work together to implement the better voting system they’ve promised and Canadians will actually end up with governments the majority of them are happy with.

            Well, as happy with as is possible.

            I’m just tilting at windmills, though, aren’t I? All I can do is shout out to my fellow Canadians and encourage them to vote. You all know who not to vote for – although, I suppose if you’re voting for them already, nothing I say is going to change that (and, for those people, I want to assure you that I’m not saying the right-wing should be out of the government. Everyone deserves their representation. That representation should just be proportional to what the people want, and that is not a majority right-wing government.)

So, really, this is for the 9 million Canadians who didn’t vote in the last election because they thought they wouldn't make a difference.


            Vote. Because this is probably the most important election in Canadian history and you can make a difference.




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